In order to be able to cope with all kinds of anxiety and solve problems associated with them, it is necessary to learn to analyze the situations that generate them.
All that needs to be done for this is to take three stages sequentially, or three steps that separate you from the truth of achieving success in the fight against the problem, resolving the life situation.
At the very first (initial or main) stage, it is necessary to focus exclusively on the collection of facts that served as the impetus for the formation of the problem. Never try to solve it, bypassing the facts, namely, collect all possible and necessary facts to study the problem from all sides well and thoroughly, look at it from various angles and angles, to find out not only from the outside, but also to feel it from the inside. It is impossible to reasonably and qualitatively solve any of the problems without a sufficient number of facts that make it understandable. Otherwise, when you don’t know something, your ability comes to vain panic attempts to find the right solution. The main mistake of many people, introducing them into confusion, is an attempt to solve the problem before a sufficient number of facts are collected to solve it. If you have to solve the problem in the future, then do not try to solve it now, do not worry, do not panic, but just concentrate on collecting facts, by the time the facts decide will be enough to decide it and it may be resolved by itself. As a rule, a person is engaged in collecting the facts necessary for him to hardly worry about the problem, his excitement and anxiety with him disappeared in the light of the information received.
Unfortunately, many people do not particularly bother to search for the right facts. Most often, a person is inclined to consider previously known from them, justifying his actions, desires and prejudices learned in the past. No wonder it seems correct only that which meets desires, and what contradicts it, makes a rage. Therefore, you should not attract emotions into the process of thinking, but objectively and impartially guided only by facts. It is almost impossible to solve this problem when anxiety reigns, while emotions are as active as possible. To regain clarity and objectivity, it is necessary to consider problems from an outsider. When collecting facts, collect information not for yourself, only then will it be possible to collect them reasonably and impartially and supplant emotions. Collect the facts testifying against you, contradicting your desires, the facts of which do not want to contact. Remember that the more facts there will be, the more clearly the problem will look, and a well -formulated problem is already half the solution.
After the necessary or all possible facts are collected and the problem has acquired a clearly defined shape, you can proceed to drawing up a list of possible actions to get out of this situation that can be taken. All actions must be recorded under the columns “for” and “against”. The most correct decision lies at the intersection between the extreme “pros” and the extreme “against”. The decision -making stage is, almost the most important, because the correctly made decision helps to disappear 50 percent of anxiety, especially if these are the most clear and definite solutions, and this is not enough. Most often, the inability to outline the correct action plan does not allow to break out of the closed circle and often leads to nervous breakdowns, turning their life into something nightmare. The rest of the anxiety will almost completely disappear when this decision is implemented.
The reason for the success of this method in its practicality, in its undeniable effectiveness and clear concreteness. It is very important after all important stages after collecting facts, making a decision, it is extremely necessary to immediately begin to implement it. Otherwise, if this is not done, then all previous facts simply turn into a transfusion from empty to empty, which means that everything will be reduced to an empty waste of time and time. Many people who have achieved success applied a similar method of solving problems. Indeed, using the above method to solve any problems, life situations, you will free your mind from unnecessary anxiety by 90 percent, free your mind to make a single correct decision and your success at this stage will be guaranteed to be 90 percent, and this is not a few.